George Floyd – A tragic ending

– May it inspire a better world- that is up to us

Written by: Phyllis Stephenson, Executive Director

Yesterday, a man who was never on the national or worldwide radar for the 46 years of his life, was grieved with a memorial service that shook our world.  On May 25, 2020, this man who was living a gentle, caring life, is taken down through police brutality.  This individual, not upholding the law to serve and protect held George Floyd down with his knee until his final breath.  This 9-minute encounter shared by video has rightfully ignited a worldwide call to end racism. This call to end racism in a peaceful organized manner is important to the future of our people, nation, and world.  The violence and rioting only adds to the wrong of the murder of Mr. Floyd.  His voice as his life slips away remains forever in our minds.

This heartbreaking moment should jar us to our core.  In America, a person who is sworn to uphold the laws of this land, murders a man, because of color. This moment of death of an innocent black man – should make us stop in our tracks and ask how can this happen? Here in our country? This should make us all stop and think about what it means to be an American?

This is a new level of brokenness in our country. Yes, there has been a culture of white privilege, but it was my hope that every day we were moving as a nation one step closer to being able to truly see others for the person they are – not the visual reflection we have in our eyes.  Yes, we must give voice to black lives matter, because our country has shown that we need to hear this not just with our ears, but to have this compassion overflow in our hearts and guide how we live our lives.

As the Executive Director of Carolina Adoption Services, I am calling each of you as part of our family, go to a quiet place, reflect on this life-ending, world-changing moment and let’s move together to “be the change that is desperately needed in our world.”

Our agency has worked for 27 years to unite children of every color, culture, ability, and nationality with families who have a call in their heart to adopt.  Every child touched by the work of Carolina Adoption Services has been cherished.  Additionally, every child living today as an orphan lives in our heart with the hope that they will have a forever family. It is our belief that diversity makes us stronger, and we must give voice to this injustice.  Black lives really do matter!

We are here to support our families who may have questions and concerns regarding parenting in diverse families.  Resources are provided in this weekly blog.  Additionally, we have scheduled a zoom meeting with my friends, Steve and Cindy Thomas, and their lovely daughter, Shannon Hogue.  Shannon was adopted as an infant into the Thomas family.  The family will share their insights from their journey of raising a black child in a caucasian family.   They will offer some insights that may be beneficial to families.  Please join us on zoom, Sunday, June 7 at 4 p.m. to join in this discussion. The zoom meeting number is 326-443-0402.  We hope to see you Sunday and please let us know if you need additional resources.

Supporting families is our continual goal and we ask you to join us in sharing your condolences with the family of George Floyd. You may send your cards to our office to be included with a special mailing to the family. The murder of this black man is breaking hearts around the world, and we want this family to know, that Carolina Adoption services, stands with them.  We share the voice that Black lives not only matter, but are cherished in our homes along with many other colors of diversity!  George Floyd, we are so grieved for how you were treated, and each of us pledges to go forward caring for all people from the depths of our hearts not the vision of our eyes! We will strive to honor you and change the world because Mr. Floyd you truly mattered, and the tragic event of May 25, 2020, will guide us to be forever changed.



Online Resources:

Pact, A non-profit organization serving adopted children of color. Provides education, support, and community for adoptees and their families on matters of adoption and race. A non-profit organization serving adopted children of color. Provides education, support, and community for adoptees and their families on matters of adoption and race.

Child Welfare Information Gateway, List of resources from the Child Welfare Information Gateway.

Adoptive Families, Collection of articles on race from Adoptive Families as it pertains to transracial families and parenting.


“Ten Things Adult Transracial Adoptees Want You to Know”; includes links to other resources and a recorded panel discussion from the Creating a Family Radio show.


Transracial Adoption Meetups across the country:



Outsiders Within: Writing on Transracial Adoption
Edited by Jane Jeong Trenka, Julia Chinyere Oparah, and Sun Yung Shin
In 30 essays, fiction pieces, and poems, adult adoptees bring their unique perspectives to the psychological ramifications of an institution that’s long only been explored through the narrow lens of the adoptive parent.

The Harris Narratives: An Introspective Study of a Transracial Adoptee
By Susan Harris O’Connor
Originally conceived as autobiographical monologues, the author, a social worker, and transracial adoptee, serves up five laser-sharp explorations—“My First Birthday” is a winner—of race and identity.

I Love You Just Because:  Join 3 bear siblings who explore what makes them special. Great book for the early years to preschool. By: Donna Keith