Written by Lianna Mills, International Coordinator
The journey of adoption is one of the most exciting and emotionally charged endeavors a family can face. The one guarantee of adoption is to expect the unexpected. Carolina Adoption Services is committed to walking alongside each family and providing the tools to empower families and children during the standard procedures and potential challenges. Below are some situations that may arise during your adoption and how we will face them head-on:
- Government slowdowns (domestic or international) or changes to international adoption requirements: We know that our families are hardworking, and we are here to support you throughout your entire journey. However, while you are in the process, changes in government (staff, policies related to adoption, etc.) may occur. During these instances, we are in regular communication with our foreign supervised providers and will relay updates as they are made known to us. We will also reach out, as appropriate, to foreign government officials, should they require any information from our agency.
- Post-Adoption Depression (PAD): Post Adoption Depression Syndrome (PADS) is a condition that is prevalent in the adoption community. As a family’s adoption journey can be a long road, parents’ hopes and dreams for the child they so greatly desire to bring home may conflict with the reality of the child they adopt. A sense of attachment between parents and their child may not be immediate, so it is not abnormal if when meeting your child, it is not “love at first sight.” We advise families to discuss PADS with their primary medical provider, as well as your child’s future pediatrician.
- Children’s behaviors once they are home: Your child’s homecoming is an exciting time- however, it’s also important to see it through the lens of your child. They may experience feelings of grief and loss related to their previous life, and in turn, your child may exhibit some behaviors uncharacteristic of a child their chronological age. Rather than rushing your child to adapt to your family’s schedule, the importance of establishing a routine for your child’s day-to-day will help them adjust enormously. It’s important to remember that your child’s behavior is a message of an underlying emotion.
- Medical conditions not listed on your child’s records or a misdiagnosis: Prior to a family traveling to country, our agency and foreign supervised providers are dedicated to sharing all of your child’s medical and psychological information on file. When you first meet your child, it is important to ask any and all questions you have regarding their routine, what is known about their medical history, etc. However, not all trauma may be recorded, and occasionally, a diagnosis may be unlisted or mislabeled. This is when your community resource study (a form filled out during your home study process) will come into play, as it will contain all of your pre-identified medical and psychological specialists specific to your area.